The Many Stages of Deciding to Travel Solo

The Many Stages of Deciding to Travel Solo
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(Last Updated On: November 27, 2019)

I wrote this post quite a while ago – when I decided that I was going to do it… travel SOLO.  But… I’ve had a hard time sharing the news! I kept wondering to myself, why?  Why am I having such a hard time being open about something so near and dear to my heart?  I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s because it’s not necessarily the “normal” thing to be doing, by society’s standards, to want to go on a trip alone. It’s a bit weird actually, especially at my age, when I *should* want to settle down.  And I *should* want a house with kids and dogs running around and yada yada.  Yet… I don’t feel that way.  I feel the least settled I have in my entire 28 years of living.  And I think that’s because deep down I know that this is something I need to do.

“And yet many of us, even those who cherish alone time, are often reluctant to do certain things on our own – which may lead us to miss out on entertaining, enriching, life-changing experiences and new relationships.” – Alone Time.  I stumbled upon this book (Alone Time), after I had already made the decision to buy a one-way ticket to Europe.  This passage speaks directly to me.  Why is it that as humans it is hard or embarrassing to spend time by ourselves?  I feel the most recharged and re-energized after a nice day entirely alone.  Is that so bad?

So without further ado, here are the true stages of making the decision to travel solo.  And yes, all of these thoughts have actually gone through my mind.  And I am sure that they have gone through most other people’s minds that have made this decision before me.

“OMGSH I am going to solo travel.  It’s going to be SO fun.”

“OMGSH… ummmm… have I told anyone about this yet?  Can I back out?!  What was I thinking?”

“I have to save HOW much?!”

“And I’ll STILL have to stay in a hostel?!”

“Oh, I did tell people.  So that means I have to go?”

“No Grandma.  I cannot wait for my dad to retire so he can go on this trip with me.”

“Yes – it is safe.” (Said to A, B, and C who have never left their backyard).

“OMGSH I am sooooo excited, this is going to be the best thing ever!”

“Wait.  Does it still count as a ‘solo’ trip if I am recruiting people to come visit?”

“Welp, wrote this blog post now I am for sure going.  Yup.  No backing out now.”

So as I embark on this journey all I ask is this.  Do something that scares you.  Something out of your comfort zone.  Take the cooking class.  Learn a new language.  Meet a new friend.  Eat out by yourself.  Stop worrying about failure or what society might think of you.  Stop with the excuses.  Don’t wait to live your life and just… go… do it.


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Kylee splits her time between being a NICU nurse and solo traveler. Spending half her time at the bedside, Kylee has been caring for premature babies in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit for five years now. She began Passports and Preemies in 2017 to reach nurses and advocate for the prevention of nurse burnout by traveling. Kylee is the original creator of the “8 Day Vacay” – A vacation geared towards nurses aiming to take advantage of the potentially 8 days off between work weeks with no need to use PTO.

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  1. Alyssa
    August 5, 2018 / 2:51 pm

    Ok I’ve actually heard that everyone should travel alone at least once! So, I’m very proud and envious of you! I love alone time. You’re going to have the time of your life. But, you know me, be safe!! Everyone is a predator ?

    • August 6, 2018 / 10:40 pm

      Hahaha thanks Alyssa! I will try my very hardest to be safe ;). Love you!

  2. August 5, 2018 / 3:30 pm

    So proud of you, love!! This post gave me chills. Especially the last sentence— “Stop waiting to live your life and just…go…do it.” Life is so short. It’s way too short to spend time trying to live up to other people’s expectations of what we should be and how we should behave. Happiness is the ultimate form of success. You’re killing it girl!! xoxo, Lindsey (The Dixie Belle Diaries)

    • August 6, 2018 / 10:41 pm

      I am proud of you! You have always been my inspiration putting yourself out there!!

  3. September 3, 2018 / 11:54 pm

    Love it! I have been trying to get out of my comfort zone and travel solo more often. It can be a bit scary trying to navigate a new place on your own but that is part of the adventure, right? Enjoy your future solo travels!

    • September 4, 2018 / 12:37 am

      You can do it girl! For 6 months I would repeat to myself “I can do it, I can do it”, before I actually bit the bullet and booked a ticket!

  4. audrey schmitt
    September 20, 2018 / 5:26 pm

    Cant wait to read your posts!!! have a wonderful adventure and be careful!

    • September 20, 2018 / 5:27 pm

      Awe thanks Audrey! Maybe you and my mom could visit Kristen and I?!

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