Traveling with Anxiety As a Solo Traveler – And How to Overcome it

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As I write this I am sitting on a bus, traveling from Ivalo to Rovaniemi, both towns in Finnish Lapland.  I had been dreaming of visiting Lapland since I can remember.  Visions of crisp, white snow below me and dancing northern lights above me.  Husky rides, Christmas cheer at Santa’s village, and snowmobiling.  The opportunities for winter fun seemed to be endless in the Arctic Circle.  And while I sat on a bus, by myself, traveling in an unfamiliar country, not knowing the language, and not knowing a soul… anxiety started to creep in.

I’m a baseline, anxious person.  I’ve been on and off anxiety medicine since 2016.  When I first began having dreams of traveling the world solo, anxiety would always tell me, “no”.  “You’re not the kind of girl that could do that”.  And I believed it.  I shut off my desires of solo travel for years until one thing led to another and I had booked a one-way ticket to England.  I had prepared in the sense of researching how to pack, which countries I wanted to visit, what to do once I arrived in England; but I hadn’t been prepared for the immense amount of anxiety I felt as my flight took me across the Atlantic.

 

The Truth About Traveling with Anxiety

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The truth about traveling with anxiety is this:  there is no magic way of making your anxiety disappear.  The truth is that while there are small measures each of us can take to combat anxiety, what works for me… may not work for you; and vice versa.  The truth is that while it’s frightening and debilitating to work through bouts of anxiety… what is more frightening?  Sitting at home and letting it control your life?  Or getting up, facing it head-on, and doing what you love to do despite the overwhelming anxiety?

 

Tips For Combating Anxiety While Traveling

Be prepared.

Before taking off to your destination, prepare!  This is obviously much easier if you’re going on a shorter trip, but even if you’re taking a long trip I recommend planning out the first week or two until you start to feel more comfortable being alone.  The way I do this is by making sure I call my bank ahead of time to get my debit card cleared for travel (same with my credit cards), and also calling the phone company to see if I can get cell service abroad.  And if I’m on a long trip, I make sure to plan at least a week in advance so that I know exactly where I’m going the first few days.

 

Show up with a plan!

For me, the best way to curve my anxiety is by having a plan of action.  This means that I know what number to call in case of an emergency, I know exactly what transportation I need to take to get from the airport to where I’m staying, I’ve already researched restaurants and bars around me, and so on.  While I don’t always have every detail planned out, I think it’s imperative to plan the first two days of travel so that you aren’t overwhelmed and overcome with anxiety.

 

Be kind to yourself.

If you’re having an off day or you need to stay in – do it.  And don’t beat yourself up over it.  Oftentimes while traveling people tend to go, go, go.  The true beauty in traveling (especially traveling solo), is realizing what you need to fill up your own cup.  Whether that is to go non-stop or to take a rest day every now and again.  However you choose to travel is okay and there is no wrong way to do it.

 

Refill your prescription before leaving.

If you’re on medication for anxiety, don’t forget to refill your prescription before leaving.  If you know you’re going to be gone a while, you might even ask your doctor to please write extra scripts so that you can take all of the medication with you and you won’t have to deal with it abroad.

 

Take care of yourself.

Whenever I’m the least healthy – drinking too much, eating junk food, not sleeping enough – is when my anxiety is at an all-time high.  I recognize this about myself and realize that while traveling I need to take extra measures to make sure that I’m staying healthy and taking care of myself.  This means sometimes splurging on a spa day instead of going out and exploring.  It even means sleeping in or going to bed earlier.  And oftentimes it also means heading to the grocery store to cook in my Airbnb instead of eating out at a restaurant.  Try to figure out what triggers your anxiety and then do your best to avoid those triggering things.

 


For more advice on anxiety check out this great post from Twin Perspectives (formerly Twins That Travel)


 

Trust That You are Stronger than Your Anxiety

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More than anything, trust that you are stronger than your anxiety.  Trust yourself that you can do crazy and outlandish things like travel the world despite the anxiety that creeps in.  In the past anxiety has crippled me to the point of spending the entire day in bed.  And at times, it is still debilitating.  But choosing to face it head-on has been the biggest blessing in disguise.

Facing my anxiety has allowed me to travel solo to 30+ countries.  It’s allowed me to be a travel nurse all over the USA.  It’s taken me from Europe, to the Middle East, and to Southeast Asia.  I’ve bathed elephants in Thailand, sang karaoke with locals in Italy, and booked a spontaneous flight to eat pizza in Naples.  I’ve learned to sit in silence, and to enjoy my own company.  I’ve learned and grown to appreciate different cultures and traditions around the world.  I’ve learned that there are some jerks out there, but most people surprise you in the best way possible.  That if you take the time to sit still, listen, and learn… you will grow more than you thought possible.  And coming home may just give you more anxiety than leaving in the first place.

 

So while I sit on this bus, the one my anxiety told me would never show up.  I can reflect on the progress I’ve made and how far I’ve come.  I’ve learned that dealing with anxiety isn’t a linear path but instead more of a rollercoaster.  There are ups, and there are downs, but the ride is beautiful despite the messy setbacks.  And although I’m traveling solo, I’m never truly alone.  It’s the people I meet in each destination that get me from one place to the next.

 


For more on solo travel, check out these posts:

Why it’s Important to Follow Your Gut When Traveling Solo – Tips for Solo Female Travelers

The One Thing that Nobody Tells You About Solo Travel

How Solo Travel Changed Me

The Healing Power of Solo Travel

Lessons Learned on the Road:  How to Deal with Loneliness


 

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Kylee is a traveling Neonatal Intensive Care (NICU) nurse with a love for solo travel, wine, and Taylor Swift. Inspiring nurses to travel both near and far, Kylee began Passports and Preemies in 2017 while volunteering in Skopje, North Macedonia. Passports and Preemies was created as a way to reach nurses and advocate for the prevention of nurse burnout by traveling. Kylee is the original creator of the “8 Day Vacay” – a vacation geared towards nurses who aim to take advantage of the potentially 8 days off between work weeks with no need to use PTO.

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7 Comments

  1. November 18, 2018 / 10:33 pm

    You are so brave! And honestly an inspiration for me and my future travels. I am ALWAYS worrying about the what ifs. Planning weeks in advance, making sure I have somewhere to stay, making sure I have figured out transportation to each place and making sure I have directions to every place. I love how you are taking on your fears on this trip! Really just learning to trust yourself, your journey and the people around you. I can’t wait for more of your adventures!

    • November 20, 2018 / 10:55 am

      I used to be like that too! But then I just let go and it feels so liberating! But my OCD-ness does still show its face at times!!!

  2. Cassie
    November 19, 2018 / 2:33 am

    You’re still killin it!! Love it! Such great lessons. Love you my traveler!

  3. November 30, 2018 / 8:32 pm

    Kylee,

    What a lovely and honest reflection on fear and bravery. I think it is amazing that even though you have had so much fear of the unknown you are continuing on your trip. That is some bad ass bravery right there- being able to sit with fear and grapple with it and say “I see you AND I’m continuing on anyways”.

    You are totally right that trust is a much happier and peaceful way to be. I am glad to see you trying to lean into trust more than fear. It is a constant process though- because fill will continue to creep it, but just keep choosing trust instead.

    Wishing you the very best and can’t wait to read more. Sounds like you are up to some ridiculously incredible adventures.

    xoxo Chelsea | http://www.theturquoisetraveler.com

    • December 3, 2018 / 8:36 am

      I can’t wait to follow your travels through South Korea! Now THAT is badass bravery. You go girl!

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